Anxiety...

Let go

I’ve always wondered what anxiety felt like—how to help someone dealing with it, or what they truly experience.

Shortness of breath? Rapid heartbeats? A sense of disconnection from the world?

What was it, exactly? What made anxiety so powerful that it could carve out a space in our minds, rent-free? Was it a natural byproduct of growing older, or something that existed all along, waiting for the right moment to show itself?

I hadn’t experienced it myself, but I wanted to understand—especially how to help someone having an anxiety attack. If they’re so common nowadays, shouldn’t we all know how to respond?

Google, as always, had answers:

• Stay calm and grounded.

• Encourage slow, deep breathing.

• Provide reassurance.

• Help them ground themselves.

• Ask how you can help.

• Create a comfortable environment.

• Avoid dismissing their feelings.

• Offer physical comfort (if welcomed).

• Stay with them until they feel better.

• Encourage professional support.

It all seemed straightforward. At least, that’s what I thought—until anxiety crept into my own life in the most unexpected way.

In 2024, I experienced one attempted robbery and another successful one, all within four months. My phone and bag were the prime targets.

After the first robbery, I refused to let fear control me. I became hyper-vigilant: walking faster, scanning my surroundings, and mentally preparing myself to outmaneuver any suspicious behavior. “Never again,” I told myself.

But when the second robbery attempt happened, everything changed. Thankfully, I escaped with my belongings intact, and I couldn’t stop thanking God for that victory. Yet, unlike the first time, my mind didn’t bounce back so easily.

Now, everyone I didn’t know seemed like a potential threat. My usual confidence? Shaken.

For days, I couldn’t leave my house. When I finally did, I gave myself strict curfews to feel safe. Even then, my heart raced with every step outside. I couldn’t stop expecting the worst.

This time, anxiety had a seat at my table.

Here’s the thing: helping others is one thing. Helping yourself is another. How do you reassure yourself that you’re safe? Encourage yourself to breathe. Adjust your routine to find comfort and push forward.

I’m still figuring that out. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: healing takes time. Some days are harder than others, but every small victory is worth celebrating.

To anyone struggling with anxiety—or any fear—remember this: you’re not alone, and it’s okay to take it slow. Healing isn’t a race. Every step forward is progress, and you’re stronger than you think.

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From The Experts Desk.

Anxiety is a natural response to stress, but when it becomes overwhelming, it can disrupt daily life. Recognizing its signs—like rapid breathing, restlessness, or racing thoughts—can be the first step toward managing it.

Practical steps like grounding exercises or adjusting your routine can help, but professional support from a therapist or counselor is invaluable.

For more information about anxiety and tips on how to help someone dealing with it, check out this resource from Google: What is Anxiety and How to Help Someone

Every journey is unique, but one thing remains universal: taking the first step matters most.